March 24, 2005

Dena, I saw your comment asking about the warden and remembered an event that I meant to write about. So, in answer: yes, April is jealous of my relationship, and Lord knows that she's vocal about how she feels.

Last Friday night after a pleasant trip to the mall [in which I dropped $90 on a bottle of perfume among other things], I came home to find a message waiting for me from LibraryBoy. We hadn't talked all day, not even on MSN, and he was anxious to see me.

Now, becaue April's in a delicate state of mind right now, I've been going up to his room to hang out for fear of what would happen if he came down here. But last Friday night, I'd had enough, and told him to come down. I went into the kitchen to tell April, and was met with a scowl.

//Is he coming down here? WHY can't you go up there?//

I calmly explained that this is my room too, and that I wanted to spend time with my boyfriend in MY room. She did her usual stomp-off-and-slam-the-bedroom-door routine that she does when she's pissed.

He came down, we watched a movie, made out during The Hour and Jon Stewart, and called it a night. I walked him to the door, and just after we kissed I heard a loud WHAP!!! from April's room.

The next day, around dinner time, when she was finally speaking again, April told me that she was upset with LibraryBoy being down here, and that in the future could we always hang out in his room? THE FUCK?! What about all those nights that Fuckwit spent here, or those weekends when he came to visit? I didn't like having him around, but I shut up because I knew it would piss her off if I said something. Jesus. It turns out that the previous night she'd flipped out, thrown a tantrum in her room, chucked something at the door, and then collapsed in a heap and cried herself to sleep.

I know the breakup of her and Fuckwit was hard, but c'mon. And yes, my boyfriend is disturbingly amazingly great, but suck it up! Just be happy for me! And the kicker is that her friend Brandon wants to be her fuck buddy, and she's all excited that she'll have someone to come sleep in her bed with her. So she can have a guy over, but I can't?

Thank deity she's gone home for Easter and won't be back until Monday. LibraryBoy and I played sleepover last night, and it was waaaay better to wake up and see him in the morning than April's angry face.

10 comments:

Andi said...

Uggg and a half. I hate it when people begrudge others happiness when they have a shitty breakup. I could've begrudged a lot lately but I haven't!! You make out with him! YOu make out with him a lot!

Heather said...

Hahahaha! And I do. Eff her, I don't care anymore. I mean, I do, but she needs to suck it up. It's not my fault she spent a year and a half with an arsehole.

Andi said...

Amen!

geogrrl said...

Gotta say, Chiff, don't let roomie push you around. Next time she pulls that crap, remind her that you put up with effwit for a looong time... "for her sake"... because she asked.

Also, roomie doesn't value herself much outside of her relationship with a man, does she? I mean, I have no problem with the idea of a f*** buddy, but we all know she's not considering this as a purely sexual thing. She just can't picture herself without a male half.

Great blog, by the way. I check in fairly often to see what you're up to. :-)

Heather said...

Thanks Geo! I was excited to see that you stopped by.

I've talked to her about her self esteem outside of a relationship with a man. She claims that she doesn't need one, but I think someone's in denial. I know after she and Will started their "relationship", she told me that her self esteem shot up. That's a tell tale sign right there!

I told her that she should maybe to and talk to a counsellor because she's got a lot going on right now. She brushed it off, saying that she likes to just think about it herself. Ugh! It's just so frustrating because I KNOW that counselling would help her heaps but I can't force her.

geogrrl said...

*Sigh* Yeah, it's those that need counselling the most that insist they don't need it. Until roomie admits her problems to herself, it's never going to get any better.

DH has helped my self esteem over the years, but it's not because I had a "man" in my life. He's helped me learn to stand up for myself and speak my mind more often. Most of all, it's the emotional security. It's nice to know someone's always got your back.

geogrrl said...

Hey, Chiff. I ran across this on another blog. You might be interested in helping this guy out. Neat thesis topic.

http://www.lidan.net/blogsurvey/index.html

Heather said...

Hey, thanks for the link. I just filled it out.

I've built my self esteem myself the past two years, which is partly why LibraryBoy is attracted to me. I know who I am, and dammit, I know I ROCK. Having him tell me every 20 minutes that I'm awesome and beautiful and super fantastic is just the icing on the cake.

geogrrl said...

That's exactly right. I'm still working on my self-esteem. No amount of DH telling me I'm fantastic, beautiful, etc. makes a difference to how I feel about myself. Self esteem is something you just can't get from external sources.

Heather said...

Hey Tim, thanks for swinging by and leaving a comment. There's more crazy stories in the archives, believe me. I'll check out yer blog!